“Keep your heels high and your standards higher”
The above phrase has been one of my favorites for a while now because I strongly believe setting high standards for one’s self is imperative to one’s growth.
A standard is simply a level of quality, attainment or a measure used for comparison. In essence without standards you can’t measure your growth level. Setting standards for every aspect of your life work, food, friends, partners and the quality of relationships you sustain, not just standards but relatively high standards serve as a tool for the purpose of challenging yourself.
Having high standards most times make you feel socially awkward because not everything goes when it comes to you. From the way you react to situations, and the conversations you conduct, food you eat, relationships you allow or do not allow will automatically set you apart from the crowd and not everyone will understand you or your ways and accept them.
Over the years I have met many different people some I liked some not so much and over the years I have received a lot of comments “oh you’re too harsh” “oh you’re proud” and so on from diffrent people. I usually felt bad when I received such comments because I was just trying my best to live my own life not by anyone’s standards but by mine (which I set really high to be honest) but I did it for the purpose of challenging myself. I want so much more out of life so I set goals and high standards to guide me and my growth. However, fact that I didn’t see some things as necessary to my own life back then due to my personal highly set standards didn’t mean I was “proud” or “judgmental”, it only meant I had an idea of what I wanted and what I didn’t want, setting standards based on my goals and I knew it was okay to be odd because I had a goal to achieve and a growth process to undergo so I don’t mind being awkward sometimes .
Now if like me you are get comments that make you feel you should lower your standards to fit in. DON’T! Why? Here are a few reasons why you should set high standards for yourself:
* You have a better idea of who you are: we are all in the growth process but you have a vision of who you want to be in one, two, three years you automatically know there are some things you have to do and some bars to live up to.
* It challenges you: when you have a bar set up high it challenges you to work harder and involve yourself more in achieving your dream.
* Evaluation: you can always measure your growth level against the standards you set for yourself. Your standards will inform your decisions.
* Discipline: restrictions build discipline, you cannot set high standards and achieve your goals and stick to your plans without discipline. A lot has to be forfeited a lot of work has to be done.
Set standards for yourself standards that will push you to do more, live more, be more and teach your kids to set standards for themselves also, so they live their best life. Trust me it will be worth it maybe not now but in the long run. You do not have to go with everything everyone is doing and that’s okay. Standardize your life your relationships and trust me not everyone will meet this standard and that is equally okay. You need individuals relevant to your growth and also individuals you can grow with but not those that bring negativity and try to draw you back. Not everyone is supposed to be in your life and that is truth. As long as you are doing right by God and yourself you’re good.
“Let us be about setting high standards for life, love, creativity, and wisdom. If our expectations in these areas are low, we are not likely to experience wellness. Setting high standards makes every day and every decade worth looking forward to” – Greg Anderson
Something to take into November. I hope this post spoke to you. Don’t forget to share your thoughts in the comment section and like. Enjoy your weekend. Love D.A♥